12/1/17

November Reflections

I am not one of those people who believe your attitude controls your entire situation. I am someone who has suffered from severe anxiety and some pretty bad bouts of depression, including one earlier this year. I definitely believe in getting help if your problems are severe, and I want to be upfront and say I take medicine to help with my anxiety and depression. However, I do believe your attitude plays a significant role in life and situation, just not the only role.


Late fall/winter and I are not friends. Seasonal depression usually hits me around October and doesn't go away until March, and as usual, October was a rough month for me. I felt like midterms went on forever. I never spent a weekend just sitting in my apartment, and I had a never-ending to-do list. Oh, I also hate Halloween, so that didn't help either. I was definitely in a funk by the end of the month.

November wasn't a perfect month, but it was miles better than October. One day I decided that I was doing my best, and that was good enough. Yes, I could have studied more for a test, but it's also okay that I went to sleep at a reasonable hour, or I grabbed dinner with my friends. However, the big change this month was allowing my mistakes to happen but also being willing to learn from those mistakes and make a change. Okay, I didn't do so hot on a test. That's fine!! But I should start studying earlier for the next test I have. 

While I was writing this post, a lot of cliches came to my mind, but I actually really love cliches so #hatersgonnahate. The first that came to mind was "progress is not a straight line." There are moments when you move forward or you don't move at all, and you might even go backward, which is okay! I think there is an expectation that all progress is linear no matter how many times we are told that it is not. We always want to be the exception to the rule and have no setbacks, and we rarely see someone's setbacks unless we are super close to them. We only see the highlights of what another person does, so I feel like when we do something good for ourselves we diminish it because it wasn't as good as something someone else did.

I've decided to rejoice in my small victories instead of saying well, it's only a small accomplishment. Did I wake up and make it to class on time? Did I remember to eat something more than a bag of chips and a poptart? Did I talk to my friends and my mom today? But the most important thing is to celebrate the little things while still moving toward a bigger goal. I got to class on time, but maybe I should try waking up before 11 on a Monday. 

I am definitely excited for November to be over and for December to start. I am going home two weeks from today, and I am so excited to spend a month at home during the holiday season. What I am even more excited about is next semester. I absolutely love the classes I am taking. I have an amazing new position in Theta, and I am doing some really cool work with the College of Communications in the next couple of months.

Here's to another month being over and this year almost being over! Happy studying :)
xx, jKm

10/24/17

On Burning Out and Losing Passion

I wish I could bottle up passion, and I doubt there's a person out there who wouldn't want to find a way to store up that feeling up excitement when it feels like you know exactly what you're doing and you're doing it right. I wish I could store up this feeling for those moments where I am feeling like what I am doing it completely wrong and the thought of maybe I should just change my major pops into my head. But I haven't figured out how to store my excitement and passion, and if someone else already has, I haven't heard about it.

I like to think I am a person who cares a lot about a lot of things. I am the person who spends way too much time on group projects, and I volunteer to help in my sorority more than the average member. I also stare at my APR 300 projects for hours after I've finished them, making sure that every single detail in aligned correctly while also trying to convince myself that it looks fine and no, I don't need to start all over. But because of this overcaring and worrying, I burn out quickly, and it makes it hard to want to do anything.


Last Tuesday I went to the October PRSSA meeting hoping to get what I get out of most PRSSA meetings: excitement and a renewed passion for public relations. But what I came out of the meeting was fear and worry, which was not fun. I felt like in the last year and a half I had done everything wrong. I wasn't involved enough and what I was involved in didn't matter. I also felt like what I wanted a job in was basically impossible to get. Needless to say, I felt very down walking back to my apartment on Tuesday night.

I spent the next couple of days in this weird middle place. I didn't have a ton of drive to do homework or work on projects. I thought what I would do if I changed my major, but I also remembered that I don't really like anything else enough to major it in. Also, I really want to graduate on time. But yeah, I felt kind of stuck in the middle of everything, and I couldn't figure out how to get out of this funk.

Luckily the universe sent me some good motivation on Friday. On Monday I received an email from CMA Edu, another club I am a part of, and representatives from the College Football Playoffs were coming to talk to a class, and we were invited to attend the Lecture and Q&A. Afterward, we were also invited to go on a tour of SEC Nation. Luckily my Friday 3:00 class got canceled, so I got to go, and I am not lying when I say it is easily one of the best things I could have done. I left the set of SEC Nation (after meeting Tim Tebow and Laura Rutledge) feeling better than I have in almost a month. I felt like I was doing stuff right instead of doing everything wrong. Maybe I could be doing more, but what I am I doing isn't necessarily wrong.

I can't bottle passion...yet. And I think it's okay to have those moments where I feel burnt out and lost as long as I seek out things to reignite those feelings of passion and happiness. There's no way for a person to be at 100% 100% of the time, and it's unfair to expect that kind of drive from one person. However, I think there's something to be said for those people who can push past those doubts and feelings. Forcing myself to feel perfectly content in what I am doing all the time is not healthy, and it's most definitely not fair to myself. But I think expecting myself to fight through my doubts and fears is acceptable. I love what I am studying, and I believe I can do it, but having doubts in yourself is just a part of life that I am learning to accept.

xx, jKm

10/4/17

162 Games Later

Baseball is over. Well, regular season baseball is over, and the magic of October baseball is just starting, but baseball is over for most teams including mine. 

Over a year ago, I shared why I love baseball, and nothing has changed since that summer. Baseball still holds a sense of magic to me, and I still fall in love with the Phillies every year even though I know they would probably break my heart at least a couple times (And they did). Fair warning: while I love baseball as a whole, this is going to be about the Phillies' season. 


Another 162 games have passed. 162 games filled with fun-to-watch rookies, some good and bad pitching, and some heartbreakers and some games I am honestly surprised they won (like that one against Clayton Kershaw). I've probably cried about baseball 162 times too, especially considering I cried while writing this post. 

Except there were something different about this season, and I don't think I was the only one to feel it. There was a sense of hope by the end of the Phillies' season. The Phillies finished 66-96, not a great record by any means, but it wasn't the worst in baseball, which is definitely an improvement. The next 4 months will be filled with talks about how Rhys Hoskins will top his rookie debut and how Aaron Nola will overcome some midseason difficulties. I'm sure people will be calling for J.P. Crawford to start opening day, and there will be hours of talk about Mickey Moniak's development. And again there will be hope because the Phillies "never let you down.

The Phillies have been there for me through some rough times. I sat watching the Phillies play in the summer of 2011 when I couldn't walk because my knee pain had gotten so bad, and I always know that no matter what the team will be back in February to start spring training. The Phillies have never left me, so why would I leave them after a couple of bad seasons?

I was texting my dad about the Phillies since that's all we talk about, and I said, "April-July were rough. But there's hope." And he said, "That's why we keep coming back every year." So while October baseball gears up for hopefully another magical postseason, I will wait for the pitchers and catchers of the Philadelphia Phillies to report in February and hopefully be able to convince my dad to go to Spring Training again. Also, I'll be keeping up with the 2008 Phillies Twitter. 

xx, Julianna

9/8/17

What's Next?

I should probably be sleeping right now (or studying . . . or a mixture of both), but for the first time in months I have had the urge to write. I figured I should take this burst of energy and want and run with it because I honestly have no idea when this will happen again. For the longest time, I have wanted to write something, but I didn't know what. I felt conflicted because of everything that's going on in the world. Do I acknowledge it? Do I ignore it even though I don't really want to? Do I even really share my opinion? So I picked the easiest option -- doing nothing at all.


I talked to my roommates about this a while ago. I constantly have thoughts running through my head, but I rarely actually finish my thoughts. I'll think, maybe this is something I should talk about or write about or think about longer than 3 seconds. But the thought would quickly leave as soon as it came, completely unfinished. The most frustrating part was I wanted to complete these thoughts I was having. Unfortunately, the beginning of August was crazy hectic between driving to Alabama, having workshop week/rush week, actually moving into my apartment, starting school, and trying to start off on the right foot in all my classes. It was a lot, and I decided there wasn't time to sort through my brain, find the "blog worthy topic," and write.

Except what is a blog worthy topic? I've become disillusioned with blogging lately, which is frustrating. At this point everyone and their mother blogs, and there is a huge issue with content overload. Very few things are original at this point. How many blog posts about agendas or sorority recruitment outfits do there really need to be? I admit. I am guilty of falling into the trap of the standard blog post. I especially did it when I didn't have any ideas but felt like I needed to get a blog post up. I wanted to be more authentic in my blogging in the new year, and while I think I have been true to myself, I don't believe my content over the first seven months of the year was original. I have the utmost respect for the bloggers I follow who I feel like create good, original content, especially when it comes to fashion and lifestyle content, but I just don't think that's for me anymore. Or at least right now.

Right now I just want to write. I want to write down my thoughts and feelings about everything and all things, which I think will be healthy for me. I want to talk about what I am studying in class, what I am doing in college, and what I want to do in the future. I want to talk about the lessons I've learned and about how I am coping with my mental health. One of things I miss about high school (which is honestly not a lot) is being on newspaper and being able to tell stories, so I am going to use this blog to try and tell my story. I don't know what's that is going to entail. I can't promise a blog post every week or even every month, but I can promise I'll try to make it interesting.

Until next time, 
Julianna

7/28/17

Atlanta Wall Crawl | The Beltline

Okay so, I wouldn't exactly call this a wall crawl because I only have time to go to one mural, but I've been wanting to go to Atlanta and find cool murals for the longest time. Last week one of my best friends since forever, Marina, texted me and asked me if I was interested to do a "wall crawl" with her. I immediately said yes, and I knew exactly where I wanted to go - the Beltline. If y'all don't know, the Beltline is this path around the the city of Atlanta, and it used to be a railroad track, but now it's a walking/biking path. It's really cool, but unfortunately the development of the Beltline and the stuff around it has gentrified the Old Fourth Ward/Midtown area. However, that's another post for another day.

Marina and I didn't go too far around the Beltline because the weather started getting iffy and we ran into Ponce City Market to explore before it started raining, but we found this really cool mural that's on the back on one of the Paris on Ponce buildings. I think it's a relatively new mural too. (Warning: There are a lot of pictures)

That's Marina! She's been one of my best friends since first grade. She goes to university in Scotland, so we don't get to see each other a ton, but she's basically the coolest person I know. 

Like I said, we ran into Ponce City Market to do some exploring and we spent most of our time in Citizen Supply. I had never been before, and it's the coolest store. Everything they sell is either handmade or small-batch goods, a local brand, or a small business, which I think is amazing. They sell one of my favorite print companies, Old Try, so I knew I was in the right place. A lot the stuff that sell is Atlanta specific too, and I think between the two of us Marina and I wanted everything in the store.

Happy Friday!!
xx, jKm

7/17/17

College Advice + Tips

Y'all, my sophomore year starts in a little over a month... I can't believe it because it kind of feels like I am going for my freshman year and I need to start preparing for rush. Luckily, despite what my brain thinks, I am going back to Alabama as a sophomore and not a freshman. Speaking of freshman year, today I am sharing with y'all seven pieces of advice/tips/things I wished I had known. I loved my freshman year, and hopefully this advice and these tips can help you have a great first year too!

1. It's okay if you don't meet your best friends right away. I think when you join a sorority you expect to find your lifelong best friends on Bid Day/New Member Retreat. Of course that does happen for some people, but it doesn't happen for others. It took me about a week to become friends with Emma, and that happened because I didn't want to sit at lunch by myself. Then it took me another month to become friends with Katielynn, Catherine, and Julia. Then if you don't join a sorority, this might take a little bit longer too until you get settled in classes and find organizations to join. Don't be discouraged if on the first day of class you haven't found your best friend yet.

2. Get out of your dorm as much as possible. The people I know who didn't like school didn't do anything besides go to class and sit in their dorm. College is of course about getting good grades, but it's also about doing something, anything. This is the time to get involved in something you are passionate about because you have so much time outside of classes. Also most universities offer a ton of welcome back activities for freshmen during the first week of school. At Alabama they have movies on the Quad and a welcome back concert, which is where I got to see Ludacris last year.

3. Take at least one humanities course even if you don't have to. Last semester I took Southern Studies because I thought I was going to be an American Studies minor for a hot second, and it turned out to be one of my favorite classes. While I ended up not needing the classes because I already had my humanities credits covered, and I am no longer going to be an AMS minor, I thought it was one of the more useful classes I've taken. Humanities classes are all about thinking critically and looking at subject matters through different lenses, which I think is a super important skill to learn. These courses are also super interesting, and there are a wide range of topics, so you will probably find something that piques your interest.

4. Don't shy away from hard classes. Everyone I know always looks up professors on RateMyProfessor and wants the professor who gives no homework, grades easily, and doesn't take attendance. While I have definitely taken those classes in the last year, my favorite classes were the ones with "hard" professors. My Intro to PR class only had one professor, and everyone complained about him, but in the end he ended up being one of my favorite professors. Yeah, I had to work really hard in that class, but I learned a lot even because I struggled sometimes. Definitely balance out hard classes with easy classes, but don't be afraid to try something a little bit harder.

5. It's okay to change your mind about everything. I think this is something I learn every year, and it's something I think I have to relearn every year. If you know me, you know that I am the person with the five year plan who has everything planned out, and it colored coded. I talked about what changed for me in the last year in my Freshman Year Reflection post, but surprisingly an Odyssey article summed it up in the perfect way. During your freshman year, you are going to fall in and out of love with just about everything, and that's okay. You're under no obligation to keep doing things exactly the same way all the time. Your life is too short to spend it doing things you don't like and being around people you don't like.

6. Find a place to study that isn't the library or your dorm. Personally I don't love studying the library, and I can't hard core study in my dorm, especially if my roommates are there. The library is too sad for me honestly, and I only go there if it's exam season, and I need to crack down on everything. I have three go-to spaces to study at school. My #1 place to study is the Theta house mostly because I am there all the time. It can be super loud during meal times, but once lunch is over, the house is actually pretty quiet, and I just put in headphones and do homework. The other two places are the balcony of the communications building, which is actually my favorite place on campus, and then the student center. Having options is the best because you will go to your "go-to" place at some point, and it will either be too crowded or too loud.

7. Figure out who you like going out with. Okay, I don't go out a ton, but when I did, I learned very quickly that your experience will be defined by who you go out with. If you don't like drinking, going out with people who do may not be the most fun. If you like staying at one place/fraternity/bar, your friends who like to party hop may not be the right choice. I love all my friends, but I know there are certain friends that I can't go out with because our "going out" vibes don't match.

xx, jKm

7/10/17

2017-2018 Agendas

If you talk to me for more than 30 minutes, I'll probably bring up agendas at some point. During the school year, my agenda is my best friend, my go-to, my lifeline, and honestly, I would be so lost without it. I've about a million posts about how I've organized my agendas over the years.

Since my freshman year of high school, I've used a Lilly Pulitzer agenda, but this upcoming year I've decided to change it up because I fell in love with these agendas from 1canoe2. The bookstore at Alabama sold them last year, and I could not stop staring at them because they are so beautiful. Then when I saw the 2017-2017 collection, I knew I had to get the floral design. I mean, periwinkle, coral, and gold? Right up my alley.

Even though I've known what agenda I was going to use for the upcoming year since May, I've still been pouring over new arrivals because I love agendas that much, and the new arrivals make even more excited for fall. (It always reminds me of this scene in You've Got Mail.) I even texted my roommate an agenda and told her it was perfect for her. I seriously spend most of my time looking at agendas and organization tips. It's a little ridiculous.

xx, jKm

7/7/17

Friday Favorites | 7/7

I'm in Indiana for the weekend! I am at a leadership conference hosted by Theta, and it's been a great time already.

HAIM's new album is out today!!! *immediately adds to my Summer 2017 vibes playlist*

I think I want to get a thrifted jean jacket and add a ton of patches on it, and these ones from Ban.do would be a good place to start. Also this Dolly Parton Vibes pin would go perfectly.

This post from Gabby about the transition to college is so spot on!

Also Kesha is releasing a new album next month, and summer 2017 continues to be good to me music wise.

While I don't love Hamilton like everyone else, I love the mixtape, and the music video from Immigrants (We Get the Job Done) was released last week. So good, y'all.

Sorry for the short post today! This week has been absolutely hectic with the holiday and then traveling, but I hope y'all have a wonderful Friday. 
xx, jKm

7/5/17

Three Days in Asheville

Last week my mom, my dad, and I went to Asheville, North Carolina for a three-day getaway. It was my mom's birthday week, and my dad was off work for the week, so it was the perfect time to a mini family vacation. Asheville is a classic Kearney family vacation spot, but I haven't been since my freshman year of high school when we were passing through North Carolina on our way home from Philadelphia. However, my parents actually spent a week in February in Asheville, so I was excited that I got to go with them this time.

If you've never been to Asheville, it's a weird place, and they like it that way. It's a super liberal, hippie, outdoorsy city. A lot of the food in the restaurants is locally grown, and a lot of the clothing that stores sell is fair trade or American made.

Day 1
Tuesday night we went to see Alan Alda speak as a part of a book festival, so we spent the night in Atlanta to make the drive a little bit easier. After we finished the drive Wednesday morning, the first thing we did was grab lunch at Tupelo Honey. My parents went here back in February, and my mom was so excited to go back for her birthday lunch. Y'all, it was so good. I am a super picky eater, and I wasn't sure if I would love the grilled chicken sandwich I ordered because it had avocado on it. But 100% I would eat it again. The best part of the meal, however, was the biscuits that came out before. My dad was super pumped about the biscuit, which is how I know it was going to be a good one. 

After we ate, we headed to downtown Asheville to shop because I forgot to bring shoes to hike in. The first place we went was the Mast General Store, which is HUGE. It reminded me of a Cracker Barrel store but with a ton more stuff. The top part has clothes, t-shirts, candy, car games, home supplies, and camping stuff while the bottom floor is more outdoorsy equipment. I got my new Chacos and KAVU here. I could have spent another two hours just looking at everything. Next we went to Malaprops, which is an independent bookstore that my mom loves, and then we walked around some more before going to check into our cabin. 

Day 2

On Thursday morning we went hiking at DuPont State Forest, which is about an hour outside of Asheville. We hiked to Triple Falls, and it was absolutely love beautiful. It was a little bit hillier than I prefer my hikes, but that's what you get when you go hiking in the mountains compared to the flat part of Georgia. It was about a mile hike to the falls, and then a mile back, so it is definitely not a terrible hike, and the view is so worth it. Once we finished our hike, we went to Brevard and ate at Mayberry's, a sandwich shop. 

After a nice nap, my dad and I went to an Asheville Tourists baseball game. I think this was my favorite part of the whole trip because it was so much fun. I love minor league baseball so much, and the atmosphere was surprisingly amazing. They play at McCormick Field, which has been there for forever basically, and learning the history of the team and the field was great too. 

Day 4
Friday was our last day in Asheville, and we took it as a pretty chill day because we were all tired and hadn't been sleeping great. For lunch we went to Early Girl Eatery, which we go to basically every time we are in Asheville. It's a popular spot, and it can be a little crowded, but the food is amazing. I got the French toast with blueberries and chocolate, and it was so good. After lunch, we walked around downtown a little bit more. 

We went back to the cabin and napped and watched TV. While it was a child day, it was exactly what we needed after a busy three days. 

Happy Wednesday!
xx, jKm

7/3/17

5 Tips for Sorority Recruitment

Hey y'all! I know a lot of girls are getting ready to prepare for sorority recruitment, and as someone who went through the largest sorority recruitment in the country, I feel like I have a few pieces of advice to offer. If you want to read about my experience during recruitment, you can check that out here. 


STAY POSITIVE
Oh my goodness. Recruitment week is so stressful, at least for me it was. Emotions are running high. If it's in the fall, you just left home for the first time, and you might be in a place where you don't know a ton of people. Then you have to go impress these girls in hopes that you can join their house. I loved and hated recruitment all at the same time. My excitement definitely outweighed my stress, but I still was really stressed out for the entire week. I would watch the Olympics and would start randomly crying during any of the events. I even cried to my Rho Chi multiple times, and I wasn't even upset with my houses that I had left. I just started crying when I got my schedule back because I was so stressed out from the week. I even cried during preference round at one of the houses. Yikes...

Since it is such a stressful week, you need to stay positive to balance out the anxiety. The best thing for me was to remind myself that I didn't need all 16 houses to like me; I just needed one house to love me. If a house drops you, you shouldn't want to be in that house anyway. They're actually helping you out in a way because they realized that you probably fit in better somewhere else. For me I didn't realize Theta was my "perfect" house until I actually started meeting people and finding out more about the house. I didn't realize this during recruitment, and the houses that I thought were the perfect ones for me turned out to not be that right fit. 

DON'T DWELL ON RECRUITMENT
My Rho Chi was the absolute best, and every day after I was done, she told me to go distract myself. She knew that I was overthinking everything a ton, and going back to my dorm and sitting by myself was not going to help me at all. I would go back to my dorm and watch the Olympics or Netflix. When more people started moving in, I would go hang out with them when I had time after parties. I even hung out with my Rho Chi group one night, and we got popsicles. Do anything to not being thinking about recruitment because once you vote, there's literally nothing you can do once you leave the Row. 

TALK TO YOUR RHO CHI
Like I said, my Rho Chi was amazing. I cried to her so many times, and she really did help me when my emotions were everywhere. She reassured me that it was all going to be okay and that I needed to be in a place that wanted me. Recruitment is such a crazy process, and having someone who 1. understands because she has been in your place, and 2. is trained to deal with all your emotions is so nice. Obviously, I called my mom and sister every day, but having my Rho Chi when I broke down looking at my schedule was a God send. 

That's what they are there for. Rho Chis go through training to help you make the best decision. They've been through the process as a new member and as a member in the sorority, so they know what it's like on both sides. I know it can be hard to talk to someone about your emotions when you barely know her, but once you get over your fear, your Rho Chi can be one of your biggest supporters during recruitment. I wished I had talked to her even more because I think my experience would have been different if I had opened up to her about what I was feeling. 

TAKE NOTES
It can be hard to keep all the houses straight by the end of the day, so my biggest tip is to take notes after you visit each house. Having these notes will save you when you are going to vote at night, especially if you are stuck between two houses. I would write down who I talked to, what we talked about, and my immediate reaction when I walked out of the house. I went through my notes after recruitment, and I saw that I always wrote down positive things about Theta, which obviously shows that I am in the right house.

TRUST THE PROCESS
I think everyone says this, but it's 100% true. For me I thought I had figured out the system, but in reality I hadn't. The system is in place because it works. Trust me, I know. Theta wasn't always my dream house, but now it's absolutely the perfect place for me, and I couldn't be happier with my decision. I am not in the right house because of my own doing, believe me. I am in it because the system has a way of working out for the best. If it didn't work, they wouldn't use it.

xx, jKm

6/30/17

Friday Favorites | 6/30

Today is our last full day in Asheville, and while I am super sad to be leaving the mountains, I am incredibly grateful for our time here. It was exactly what I needed. I'll have a recap of everything we did up next week. 

Okay so I am like 3 months late on this, but I finally listened to Grace Helbig's podcast episode with Meghan Rienks. I absolutely love both Grace and Meghan so much, and I was laughing out loud in the car when I was listening to this on our way to North Carolina.

I love Ted Talks so much, and I have a habit of binge-watching them. This one on city flags is one of the best talks I have ever watched. I tweeted about it when I watched it, and I have thought about it basically every day since then. Roman Mars brings up a lot of things I have never thought about with flags but also gives good advice for design in general.

I wear a lot of t-shirts, so I love when I can get t-shirts that give back to a good cause. I have recently found a company that will donate to environmental causes. I got this shirt while I was in Asheville, and it's so soft, and it illustrates one of my favorite concepts about nature. (And it's a local brand!!)

I got this shirt from Gap two weeks ago, and it's so cute and girly and is going to be perfect for the end of summer/beginning of fall when it's still 90 degrees out.

AdWeek did these mini-profiles on 35 of the most powerful women in sports, and it was so inspiring to read about these women working in all aspects of sports from being CEO of a sports social media brand to the owner of a professional team.

xx, jKm

6/28/17

June Favorites

It's been a hot minute since I've done a monthly favorites post. Honestly it's because at school I'm not going to Target picking up little things every week or really shopping at all, but now that I've been home for two months I have racked up some new favorites and have rediscovered some old tried and trues.


TRESemmé Reverse System (Shampoo and Conditioner) | I've been wanting to try this shampoo/conditioner combination since Meghan worked with TRESemmé last year, so yeah it's been on my try-list for a while. The last shampoo I bought made my head super itchy, so I basically ran to Target and finally picked up this stuff to try because I remembered it existed.

Y'all, I love this shampoo, which I feel like I say about a lot of shampoos, but this stuff is amazing and is probably my favorite that I have tried. So I have a pretty big head, and I hate when my hair is flat because it throws off everything in my mind. I also have a lot of super thin hair, so my hair is easily weighed down by product. The reverse system changes all this because I get to have super soft hair that isn't weighed down by the conditioner once it dries. ...if any of that makes sense, but I love this stuff and high recommend trying it out.

MAC Powder Blush in Peaches | This is essentially the only blush I use, even in the winter, but this is the perfect blush for the summer. It's the perfect pinkish (kinda orange?) coral in my opinion, and I am definitely leaning into the "wearing too much blush even though I am wearing leggings" look that I have been rocking this summer.

Vaseline Lip Therapy
 | I've been using the Vaseline lip therapy for almost two years now, and it's still my go-to for when my lips feel dry. I've started using it at night before I go to sleep, and that extra step has changed my life. Obviously my lips aren't super dry in the summer like they are in the winter, but they just feel so much better since I've started applying the Vaseline before I go to sleep. It also repairs my lips because I bite my lips when I am stressed or nervous.

St. Ives Oil Scrub | Another Target pick up. My skin has been kind of funky since I got back from college. I'm not breaking out a ton, but my skin has been super rough/bumpy. I've used St. Ives before, and I chose the Apricot because it had the highest exfoliation factor compared to the other oil scrubs which a lower factor. This stuff is gritty, and it's fantastic. After the first time I used it, my skin felt smoother and overall less gross.

Colgate Optic White Toothpaste | Is it weird to have a toothpaste as a favorite? Maybe. Can y'all tell I went to Target this month? Honestly I picked up this kind because Brooke mentioned it in her May Favorite video, and the toothpaste/toothbrush aisle overwhelms me, so I just grabbed the last toothpaste I had heard about. There are too many options for anyone's own good, so I grabbed it and ran away. After three days I noticed that my teeth seemed whiter, which I will definitely take.

Harry Styles | Last week I shared with y'all my summer playlist, and I seriously had to hold back from putting the entire Harry Styles album on there. I am absolutely obsessed with the album, and for a good week it was the only thing I was listening to. I've cut back slightly, so I could listen to other new music, but I mostly listened to this for the month of June. I was going to share with y'all my favorite songs from the album, but I started listening to it, and my favorites kept changing!! The entire album is so good. Also I've definitely watched Carpool Harry-oke more than enough times. P.S. I get to see Harry Styles next summer in Nashville!!!

Melodrama | Best. Album. Ever. When I am not listening to Harry Styles, I am listening to Melodrama. Every moment on this album calls to me and makes me feel not alone. Something I forget all the time is that Lorde are super close in age (she's 20 and I'm 19). This album came out at the perfect time and just feels like everything I have ever thought and wanted to put into words. Much like Harry Styles, I honestly don't have a favorite song. My favorite lyric changes every time I listen through the album. It's perfect.

Oh, Hello on Broadway on Netflix | I love John Mulaney and Nick Kroll. I've watched John Mulaney's comedy specials way too many times, and I saw The Comeback Kid with my sister, and then I think I've seen every episode of the League at least twice. Obviously I was super excited when I saw their Broadway show Oh, Hello was coming to Netflix. The show definitely combines the best part of their humors, and it made me so excited for John Mulaney's new comedy show that's happening this fall.

xx, jKm

6/26/17

7 Game Day Essentials

Is it bad that I am already counting down the days to fall and football season? This past season at Bryant-Denny was amazing to say the least. This season I'll actually be working during games (It's something football related!), so I figured because my game day experiences will be a little different in the fall, I would share with y'all my essentials for game day. I am definitely going to be living vicariously through everyone else's game days, but don't worry; I am super excited for what I am doing in the fall. Today I am sharing my game day essentials, and these are probably better suited for a game day down South, but that's the only one I've ever experienced!
Sunscreen | This may be an obvious to some, but I swear, everyone I know got sunburnt during our first home game. I wore a face sticker to the first game, and I had a script "A" burnt onto my face. Not a super cute look. Sunscreen is super important, especially if you're a freshman at Alabama!! Freshmen normally sit in the upper section of the stadium where there is basically no shade. During the Kent State game aka the hottest game on record, one side of my back got sunburnt, and 11 am kickoffs are not friendly to those of us with pale skin, Let's be real, neither is skin cancer.

Sunglasses | Along with sunscreen, this might be another "duh," but I promise you, just remember your sunglasses for the morning games. Your life will be better because of it. Personally, I always brought my cheap Target sunglasses because I didn't mind if they somehow got lost or broken while I was at the game or the tailgates.

Game Day Button | I know this is really big thing down South, but all the sorority girls wear buttons with their letters on them and their team name. I loved wearing my "Theta Loves the Tide" button every weekend, but even if you're not in a sorority, you can still wear a game day button. A lot of them have funny sayings on them or say "Beat *Team Name Here*." You can pretty much get one anywhere that sells Alabama fan gear in Tuscaloosa, so I imagine it's the same on other campuses, and if you're in a sorority, you'll be able to get one from your t-shirt chair before the season starts!

Comfortable Shoes | Like I said, at Alabama freshmen sit in the very upper section of the stadium, and it's a hike to get there. For the love of your feet, wear comfortable shoes. You have to commit to the shoes you wear to a game because taking them off is not an option. 1. It's not a cute look, and 2. you have no idea what's on the ground in or around the stadium. My favorites options are these sandals from Target or Converse or comfortable boots once it gets cold. But if you really want to wear your super cute wedges, wear flats to the game and bring the wedges in a bag with you and change once you reach upper bowl. This is something I've actually seen a girl do, and it's pretty smart in my opinion.

Clear Bag | Speaking of bags, if you are going to a SEC school, you have to have a clear bag. This is something the conference implemented recently, and it's modeled after the NFL policy. (I know some Big10 schools won't even let you bring bags in.) You can get a clear bag almost everywhere during the season, or you can order one so you're prepared rather than scrambling to find one during the weekend. However, if that's not your style/you don't carry that much stuff, I recommend the New Stadium Crossbody from Barrington, which is designed specifically with the stadium regulations in mind.

Jersey | In the South, most girls wear super cute game day dresses, but personally, I was all about wearing my AJ McCarron jersey last season. (It became my lucky jersey after I put it on during the second half of the Ole Miss game.) Jerseys are super great for away games, super hot games, and spring games. Jerseys are a also good staple for college in general too because they work for like 85% of the themed events you'll have. Obviously generic team ones are going to be cheaper, but I loved having a player specific one, especially because McCarron was one of the reasons I started liking Alabama football.

Shaker | There's no reason to buy one before the game because you can easily find one in the stadium, especially for the first game of the season, and I promise you they will pile up in your dorm by the end of the season. I think I brought home like 5 or 6, and I swear only two of them are actually mine. Stick 'em in your boots. Stick 'em in your pockets. Just make sure you have one because singing the fight song is a whole lot more fun when you have one.

xx, jKm

6/23/17

Friday Favorites | 6/23


Before we get into my favorites of this week, I wanted to share with y'all something important. Last spring one of my sorority sisters committed suicide after transferring schools. In the fall she was raped in downtown Tuscaloosa, and the institutions put in place to protect her did not. BuzzFeed News posted their report on this case yesterday. It's a hard read, but we must continue to tell Megan's story and fight to protect women with stories like hers.

I loved, loved, loved this interview with Grace Emery on The Everygirl! I found it while I was scrolling through Pinterest for articles about PR advice, and Grace's perspective about going back and being an intern after having already worked in PR was super interesting. 

I found Sally's blog recently, and I absolutely love her style. She's abroad right now, so her content is extra amazing because of her outfits and all the scenery in Europe! Just like her blog, her Instagram is equally beautiful.

I am going to see Harry Styles next summer (*screams*), and I am already on the hunt for an outfit. While I certainly have a ton of time to find the perfect outfit, this dress from Show Me Your Mumu is defintely going to be used as inspiration.

Rex Chapman contributed to the most recent Sports Illustrated's Point After, and his story is incredible and important. He brings the opioid problem in America and the urgency to do something about it rather than letting it continue to destroy lives.

My parents and I are going to Asheville, North Carolina next week to celebrate my mom's birthday, and I am so pumped. I haven't been in a couple years, and I am so excited to explore, hike, and go see some single A baseball!

HAIM's new album comes out in two weeks, and between that, Harry Styles, and Melodrama, it is going round of the summer of perfect music for me.

I picked up this black shift dress the other day from Versona, and it's one of the cutest dresses I own.

xx, jKm

6/21/17

Summer 2017 Playlist

This summer has been good to me music wise between Harry Styles' new album, Lorde's new album, and HAIM's album, which comes out in two weeks. Today I wanted to share with y'all songs that have been on repeat. Some are new and some are old, but I can't get enough of them. I did restrain myself from putting all of Harry Styles' new music and all of Lorde's new music on this playlist, but those are albums are mostly what I've been listening to. You can find this playlist on my Spotifty. Happy listening!! ☺️

xx, jKm

6/19/17

A Day at SunTrust Park

Y'all, I finally got to go to SunTrust Park for the first time this season. You might recall that Turner Field and the Braves went their separate ways after last season, and this season marked the first one played at SunTrust Park. After weeks of waiting for a decent series to happen on the weekend, my dad, my sister, and I made the trip up to Cumberland for a game against the Marlins.


Verdict? I didn't love it. SunTrust Park is on the north side of Atlanta, and I am from the south side of the city. Now it takes an extra hour or so to actually get to the stadium, and there's no public transportation that takes you to the stadium, which is super inconvenient. The area the new stadium is kind of weird, too. It's not Atlanta; it's just outside of the city limits, so you definitely don't feel like you're in the city. However, the Battery, the part surrounding the stadium, is beautiful. There are a lot of stores and bars, and it looked like a lot more business were going to be coming to the area in the future.

But I'll be real. Nothing wowed me. Everything was super nice, but something felt off. I think it was because nothing really made the stadium feel like the Braves' stadium. The stadium faces south, so you can see the Atlanta skyline, but it's blocked by other buildings in the Battery, and what you can see is in the distance. To me the best stadiums are inherently part of a city. The view of PNC Park is breathtaking because you can see the bridge, the water, and the skyline, and the same goes for Busch Stadium. SunTrust Park is beautiful and a whole lot cleaner than Turner Field ever was, but I didn't feel like it was the Braves' stadium, and I didn't feel like I was in Atlanta.

As someone who didn't grow up a Braves fan, it's not really worth the effort of driving almost 2 hours to get to the stadium to see a team I am not a fan of play, especially if they are playing another team I don't really care about. Back when they played at Turner Field, it was so easy to go to games that my dad and I would just go to games to see baseball. Now if the Phillies or another team I like aren't in town, it makes it hard to want to go see a game. I can, however, see how the newness makes it exciting to see the Braves play for people who are Braves fans.

xx, jKm

6/16/17

What to Wear: Sorority Recruitment | Round 4

Happy Friday! Today is the last part in my week long series about what to wear for sorority recruitment. On Monday, I talked about Rounds 1 and 2. On Wednesday, I talked about Round 3, and today I am talking about the most important day: Round 4 aka Preference Round. Pref night is the last night you visit houses before bid day. It's an incredibly emotional day, or at least it was for me, and this is the nicest day for outfits.

At some schools, PNMs wear a certain color dress like black or white. I know at UGA all PNMs wear black dresses for pref night, but at Alabama PNMs can wear any color they want. The general idea for what to wear is something you would wear to an evening wedding. Shift dresses work really well, and dresses with lace details and chiffon work too! For heels I defintely recommend block heels because they're easier to walk in and more comfortable.

I didn't create a bid day look because they are so different from school to school. As for Bid Day at Alabama, PNMs wear shorts, a tank, and comfortable shoes to run to their house in because once you get to your new house, you put on a lettered jersey over your tank. I know some schools like UGA and Kentucky have PNMs wear white dresses. Again, check to see if your school has any specific guidelines for what to wear on Bid Day.

I hope this series was at least a little bit helpful for y'all! It's super important to remember that what I picked is all stuff I would wear, so if your style doesn't match mine, don't think you have to change what you're comfortable in to fit the stereotype because you want to be in a house that accepts you for you, not what you think a sorority girl looks like.

Again you can see what I wore in this post, and you can read all about my recruitment experience here. I have a couple more sorority themed posts coming up in the next few weeks, so be on the lookout for those.
xx, jKm

6/14/17

What to Wear: Sorority Recruitment | Round 3

Hey y'all! On Monday I started my series on what to wear for sorority recruitment. Monday's post focused on Rounds 1 and 2, and today's post is going to focus on Round 3. At Alabama Round 3 is called Sisterhood Round. I know at some school's this might be called Skit Round, but a lot of schools are moving away from that and instead having a sisterhood focused round or a philanthropy focused round if they didn't have one already.

Round 3 is pretty similar to Round 1 in terms of outfits except everything is elevated a little bit. Your dresses are a step up from the first round, and at this point you will switch out sandals for heels or wedges. With the dresses fabrics can definitely make the dress either more casual or nicer, so for round 3 the dresses should be less sundress-y and closer to the idea of a nice shift dress.

While I recommend wearing comfortable heels/wedges while you're in the house, bring shoes to change into! There's a lot of down time between parties at this point because you don't have as many as parties by this point, and your feet will thank you when you can walk back to your dorm in Chacos rather than wedges. (Fun fact: This was the round where I ran from one end of the row to the other in pouring rain. I picked taking off my shoes rather than grabbing my umbrella.)

Again, if you want to see what I wore last year, you can check that out here, and you can see the rest of my sorority themed posts here. Check back on Friday for Round 4 aka Preference Round!
xx, jKm

6/12/17

What to Wear: Sorority Recruitment | Rounds 1 + 2

Deciding what to wear for sorority recruitment might be one of the most stressful things in the world. Obviously I am joking, but during the process of picking out your outfits, it can seem like that. I think I sent 50 snapchats to my best friend, Christina, over the course of a month and had her pick what I was going to wear. I also think I tried on every outfit I was going to wear once a week until recruitment. I stressed out way too much about what I wore, so I know the feeling of worrying about what you're going to wear. That's why this week's post are going to be dedicated to figuring out what to wear during each round of rush. I know each school is different, and while the rounds might be switched up, you generally wear the same thing at each school just sometimes in a different order, but the order I am going in is the order Alabama does everything since that's what I know.

Today I am talking about the first two rounds, which at Alabama are Ice Water Teas (also known as Open House) and Philanthropy round. At Alabama, PNMs wear sundresses and sandals for IWTs and then shorts and a t-shirt that provided by Panhellenic for Philanthropy round. Overall my biggest tip for figuring out what to wear is to shop your closet first. You don't have to go out and spend a ton of money, and you probably already have some pieces that will be perfect for recruitment.

For the first round, dresses are definitely the most casual. I actually wore the J.Crew Daybreak dress on both days. Super comfortable and easy to wear, which I think is the most important part about deciding what to wear. Even though the dresses weren't brand new, I felt comfortable in them. With dresses, I think something that is important is the material of your dress because you want it to be breathable but not something that will wrinkle easily.

As for shoes I wore Jack Rogers, which I think work really well as long as they're broken in. Definitely wear flat sandals for the sundress round/the first round because you are visiting all of the houses this day, and you're standing and walking pretty much all day.

For the second round/the t-shirt round, wear shorts. Don't wear a skirt!! At Alabama during this round a lot of the time you are sitting on the ground, and wearing a skirt makes that so much harder. I sat on the ground for three of the eight houses I went to for philanthropy round. Like I said the shirts you wear will be provided by Panhellenic and are covered in your recruitment registration fee. Usually on your school's Panhellenic website they will provide a picture of what the shirt looks like, so you can match your shorts to the shirt.

For shoes I again recommended wear flat sandals just because of the amount of walking you will be doing, but with this round since you're wearing a t-shirt and shorts, definitely have fun with your shoes and show off your style and personality.

Be sure to check back on Wednesday and Friday for Rounds 3 and 4!
xx, jKm

6/9/17

Friday Favorites | 6/9/17

Ugh, I want to go back to Savannah so bad.

How cute is this Alabama shirt? If you're a UGA fan, they have a ton of cute shirts.

Literally every girl at Alabama has these shoes, and I think I might bite the bullet and get them before I go back to school. All my friends say they're super comfortable!

Brandon Marshall's advocacy for mental is so important, and I've been following his story for a while. He contributed this piece about stigma to the Player's Tribune, and it's amazing.

Y'all know how those tassel and ball drop earrings are super trendy and pretty expensive? Charming Charlie has both options for pretty cheap! Last weekend I picked up this blue tassel pair and white ball drop ones.

AdWeek did a piece about the lasting influence of Lilly Pulitzer and how the audience has shifted from elites to everyone.

In one of her most recent videos, Abby, who also goes to Alabama, talks about thoughts of transferring and her fears, and I think she did a really good job with explaining how she felt and how she came to make her decision to stay. 

Somehow I missed the second Domino's/Ferris Bueller ad in the spring??? I remember when the first one came out, and I was obsessed with it. 

Speaking of Stranger Things, this Lip Sync Battle is so cute. I love that LL Cool J starts singing along.

We call all agree that we are super pumped for Lorde's new album, right?

xx, jKm

6/7/17

Act Southernly

In the state of Alabama, alone, there are 10,000 children who are identified as needing a Court Appointed Special Advocate or a CASA. If y'all didn't know, CASA is Theta's national philanthropy, and in the last year, it's become a cause very close to my heart. CASAs do a lot of work with children in foster care, and in the South, there are over 100,000 kids in foster care. I fully believe in giving as much as I can to CASA and the foster care system in general because no child should have to go through that pain.

Shirt: Y'allsome // Skirt: Target // Shoes: Old Navy

Enter Y'allsome. Y'all know how I am a sucker for anything that relates to the South and has Southernisms, but the best part about Y'allsome is that they donate 10% of their profits to help Southern foster kids, which is amazing. They described their company as "Southern goods that do good."

One of my best friends, Christina, and I went to the Georgia Aquarium last week, and after we at lunch, she helped me take these photos in Centennial Olympic Park, a perfect place to show off this shirt.
xx, jKm

6/5/17

20 Hours in Nashville

I love Nashville. It's one of my cities ever, and I fall in love a little bit more every time I go. My parents went to a concert in Nashville last Friday and luckily I convinced them to let me tag along. While we were only in the city for about 20 hours, it was the perfect weekend away, and the perfect way to start off June, which I've always considered the start of summer.


After we checked into our hotel, my dad and I walked around downtown and walked down Broadway. It was the Friday afternoon before Game 3 of the Stanley Cup Finals so you could imagine how loud and crazy the bars were. I thought it was really interesting to see how into the Predators the city was. I wasn't in Atlanta during the Falcons Super Bowl appearance, so I haven't been in a city during playoffs like this before. The atmosphere was amazing. 



On Saturday we went to 12 South, which is probably one of the most popular areas in Nashville besides Broadway. This is the area where most of the murals are and of the course, the ever famous "I Believe in Nashville" mural. This is definitely one of my favorite parts of Nashville. My parents and I went around 9:30, so there weren't a ton of people there, which made it easier to explore. 

Most of the shops open at 10, and we first stopped at White's Mercantile. It's this really cool general store with a ton of knick-knacks and cool, Southern products. I got this shirt while I was there, and we got these Johnny & June pins for my sister. 



After White's Mercantile, we went to the main reason for doing to 12 South: Draper James! I've been twice, and both times I fell in love with the store, style, and the South each time. Reese Witherspoon has the most amazing style, and honestly, it's a store that truly reflects classic Southern style in my opinion. 

Once we finished shopping we did my favorite thing to do in Nashville: eat! We went to Martin's BBQ because we had been smelling good pork all day. It was a really cool restaurant, and of course, I got a pulled pork sandwich and mac and cheese. Also, I think this shirt is hilarious.

You can check out my (food) recap of my last trip to Nashville here!
xx, jKm